· Don’t Feel or talk about feelings.

· Don’t Think.

· Don’t Identify, talk about or solve problems.

· Don’t Be who you are –be good, right, strong and perfect.

· Don’t Have fun, or be silly or enjoy life.

· Don’t Trust other people or yourself.

· Don’t Be vulnerable.

· Don’t Be direct.

· Don’t Get close to people.

· Don’t Grow, change, or in any way rock this family’s boat.

· I’m not lovable.

· I don’t deserve good things.

· I’ll never succeed.